Love wins. We’ve still got work to do.

So…this was pretty much my day Friday

There were sparkly unicorns too.

There were sparkly unicorns too.

United States vs. Windsor, the case that partially defeated DOMA, pushed the ball down the hill. Obergefell v. Hodges, already being called the lesbian and gay community’s Loving vs. Virginia, kicked it into the goal.

Parties! Rejoicing! Singing in the streets! Marriages! Even the White House got its rainbow swag on.

But we still have work to do.


In 29 states you can still be fired for being LGBT. Of the 21 states that offer protection three of those don’t offer protection on the basis of gender identity. And those regulations only cover employment discrimination. They don’t address housing at all.

I freely admit I wept openly when I heard the decision Friday, just as I did with the Windsor decision. But after the joy had passed there was anger and the base, existential question: Just because I’m different why does the majority get to decide my humanity and my worth?

Dark is Coming

In other words…happy midsummer2015-06-21_1238EDT



It’s About The Privilege

It is not necessary to react to everything you notice.

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What would Kermit do?

Kermit The Frog

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It’s never the heat

Proportions of total population may vary over time and by locality.

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